For years, Dr. Linda Fried offered older patients who complained of being lonely what seemed to be sensible guidance. âGo out and find something that matters to you,â she would say.
But her well-meant advice didnât work most of the time. What patients really wanted were close relationships with people they care about, satisfying social roles and a sense that their lives have value. And this wasnât easy to find.
We need ânew societal institutions that bring meaning and purposeâ to older adultsâ lives, Fried recently told investigating loneliness and social isolation among older adults. (Fried is a geriatrician and dean of the Mailman School of Public Health at Columbia University.)
The committeeâs deliberations come amid growing interest in the topic. Four surveys (by , , the and the ) have examined the extent of loneliness and social isolation in older adults in the past year. And health insurers, health care systems, senior housing operators and social service agencies are launching or expanding initiatives. (Kaiser Health News is an editorially independent program of the Kaiser Family Foundation.)
Notably, Anthem Inc. is planning a national rollout to Medicare Advantage plans of developed by its subsidiary CareMore Health, according to Robin Caruso, CareMoreâs chief togetherness officer. UnitedHealthcare is to Medicare Advantage members at risk for social isolation. And Kaiser Permanente is starting a pilot program that will refer lonely or isolated older adults in its Northwest region to community services, with plans to eventually bring it to other regions, according to Lucy Savitz, vice president of health research at Kaiser Permanente Northwest. (KHN is not affiliated with Kaiser Permanente.)
The effectiveness of these programs and others remains to be seen. Few have been rigorously evaluated, and many assume increased social interaction will go a long way toward alleviating older adultsâ distress at not having meaningful relationships. But that isnât necessarily the case.
âAssuaging loneliness is not just about having random human contact; itâs about the quality of that contact and who youâre having contact with,â said Dr. Vyjeyanthi Periyakoil, an associate professor of medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine.
A one-size-fits-all approach wonât work for older adults, she and other experts agreed. Instead, varied approaches that recognize the different degrees, types and root causes of loneliness are needed.
Degrees of loneliness. The headlines are alarming: Between 33 and 43 percent of older Americans are lonely, they proclaim. But those figures combine two groups: people who are sometimes lonely and those who are always lonely.
The distinction matters because people who are sometimes lonely donât necessarily stay that way; they can move in and out of this state. And the potential health impact of loneliness â a higher risk of heart disease, dementia, immune dysfunction, functional impairment and early death â depends on its severity.
People who are severely lonely are at âhigh risk,â while those who are moderately lonely are at lower risk, said Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Brigham Young University.
The number of people in the highest risk category is relatively small, as it turns out. When AARP asked adults who participated in its survey last year âHow often do you feel lonely or isolated from those around you?â 4 percent said âalways,â while 27 percent said âsometimes.â In the University of Michiganâs on loneliness and social isolation, 8 percent of older adults (ages 50-80) said they often lacked companionship (a proxy for loneliness), while 26 percent said this was sometimes the case.
âIf you compare loneliness to a toxin and ask âHow much exposure is dangerous, at what dose and over what period of time?â the truth is we donât really know yet,â Periyakoil said.
Why it matters: Loneliness isnât always negative, and seniors shouldnât panic if they sometimes feel this way. Often, loneliness motivates people to find a way to connect with others, strengthening social bonds. More often than not, itâs inspired by circumstances that people adjust to over time, such as the death of a spouse, close family member or friend; a serious illness or injury; or a change in living situation.
Types of loneliness. Loneliness comes in different forms that call for different responses. According to a well-established framework, âemotional lonelinessâ occurs when someone feels the lack of intimate relationships. âSocial lonelinessâ is the lack of satisfying contact with family members, friends, neighbors or other community members. âCollective lonelinessâ is the feeling of not being valued by the broader community.
Some experts add another category: âexistential loneliness,â or the sense that life lacks meaning or purpose.
Dr. Carla Perissinotto, associate chief for geriatrics clinical programs at the University of California-San Francisco, has been thinking about the different types of loneliness recently because of her 75-year-old mother, Gloria. Widowed in September, then forced to stay home for three months after hip surgery, Gloria became profoundly lonely.
âIf I were a clinician and said to my mother, âGo to a senior center,â that wouldnât get at the core underlying issues: my motherâs grief and her feeling, since sheâs not a native to this country, that sheâs not welcome here, given the political situation,â Perissinotto said.
Whatâs helped Gloria is âtalking about and giving voice to what sheâs experiencing,â Perissinotto continued. Also, friends, former co-workers, family members and some of Perissinottoâs high school buddies have rallied around Gloria. âShe feels that sheâs a valuable part of her community, and thatâs whatâs missing for so many people,â Perissinotto said.
âLook at the older people around you whoâve had a major life transition: a death, the diagnosis of a serious illness, a financial setback, a surgery putting them at risk,â she recommended. âThink about what you can offer as a friend or a colleague to help them feel valued.â
Why it matters: Listening to older adults and learning about the type of loneliness theyâre experiencing is important before trying to intervene. âWe need to understand whatâs driving someoneâs loneliness situation before suggesting options,â Perissinotto said.
Root causes of loneliness. One of the root causes of loneliness can be the perception that other people have rejected you or donât care about you. Frequently, people who are lonely convey negativity or push others away because of perceived rejection, which only reinforces their isolation.
In a , researchers from the University of Chicago note that interventions that address what they call âmaladaptive social cognitionâ â distrust of other people, negativity and the expectation of rejection â are generally more effective than those that teach social skills or promote social interactions. Cognitive behavior therapy, which teaches people to recognize and question their assumptions, is often recommended.
Relationships that have become disappointing are another common cause of loneliness. This could be a spouse whoâs become inattentive over time or adult children or friends who live at a distance and are rarely in touch.
âFiguring out how to promote quality relationships for older adults who are lonely is tricky,â Holt-Lunstad said. âWhile we have decades of research in relationship science that helps characterize quality relationships, thereâs not a lot of evidence around effective ways to create those relationships or interveneâ when problems surface.
Other contributors to loneliness are easier to address. A few examples: Someone whoâs lost a sense of being meaningfully connected to other people because of hearing loss â the most common type of disability among older adults â can be encouraged to use a hearing aid. Someone who canât drive anymore and has stopped getting out of the house can get assistance with transportation. Or someone whoâs lost a sibling or a spouse can be directed to a bereavement program.
âWe have to be very strategic about efforts to help people, what it is they need and what weâre trying to accomplish,â Holt-Lunstad said. âWe canât just throw programs at people and hope that something is better than nothing.â
She recommends that older adults take mental stock of the extent to which they feel lonely or socially isolated. Am I feeling left out? To what extent are my relationships supportive? Then, they should consider what underlies any problems. Why donât I get together with friends? Why have I lost touch with people I once spoke with?
âWhen you identify these factors, then you can think about the most appropriate strategies to relieve your discomfort and handle any obstacles that are getting in the way,â Holt-Lunstad said.
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